This Reddit Husband Wrote His SAHM Wife a 'Performance Review'

One husband on Reddit asked the AITA thread if he is the a*hole for writing his wife, a SAHM, a performance review. And we can’t decide which is more shocking: his actions, or the fact that he doesn’t know the answer to that question.

The man in question and his wife have three children: a 6-year-old they share, the wife’s 13-year-old daughter, and a 15-year-old niece they share custody of. Dad says the household dynamic is “pretty much” mom and the 6-year old versus the teens, and he considers himself the referee.

“My wife has taught the youngest she can blame others for her actions to avoid consequences,” he wrote in the original post. “She just says the word, and one of the teens will get punished without question. There’s no doubt, she is my wife’s favorite. I love her, but she’s becoming nothing more than an entitled brat.”

As a “mere example,” he shares a story of his 6-year-old swimming in their pool while he and his wife were out. As you can probably guess, the family has a household rule that no one is allowed to swim without an adult present. Their daughter was quick to say she spent the time coloring and never went swimming, but the teens said that was a lie.

“I later found her wet swimming suit hidden in the garage,” he said. “My wife and I argued, I felt strongly she needed to not only be punished for swimming, but also for lying. After a relentless disagreement, I was silenced as she gave the youngest a very minimal consequence.”

Meanwhile, the teens were punished (either for “lying” about their sister’s actions or for letting her swim — it’s not exactly clear). Needless to say, the blatant favoritism causes problems in the house among the kids and between the parents. The OP said he and his wife have “countless, tiring arguments” when his wife “doesn’t see [the daughter’s] faults” or when they “agree to do this and that, but it is never actually done.”

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